Posts Tagged ‘bullies’

Anti-bullying | Stop Bullying in Schools | How To Stop Bullies

March 10, 2012

Feeling Bullied?


Anti-bullying | Stop Bullying in Schools | How to Stop Bullies

Defining bullying: One definition of bullying is…Bullying is aggression behavior toward another individual repeated over time. Bullying can take many forms including physical bullying, verbal bullying, social bullying and variations including cyber-bullying via text, internet or social media bullying. The defining characteristic of bullying is an imbalance of power where the target cannot defend himself.

Increasing research is demonstrating that school-wide so called anti-bullying programs are failing. Olweus own research, one of the most widely used bullying prevention programs in schools, shows that over 85% of bullying still goes unreported.

It is a common problem that children avoid telling anyone they are being bullied. Often, children fear retaliation, escalation, retribution, and the embarrassment, and fear of being blamed. One essential component of bullying prevention is for parents (teachers, coaches, school administration) make sure that children feel safe and willing to share information related to their safety or peace of mind. But teachers, schools and parents can only do so much. Something has been missing from these recent anti-bullying approaches that have been successfully addressed with other methods such as ours.

Children must feel safe, secure and have peace of mind if adults, teachers and coaches want them to be able to perform to the best of their abilities.

Sooner or Later, We All Face Bullying
Aggressive behavior, rude remarks, ostricization, cruelty are all parts of life we will each encounter. We can either stick our heads in the sand and hope they will go away or do our part to prepare for them by acknowledging the reality of human behavior. Children have to be taught how to manage these potentially harmful experiences and put them into a context that keeps them healthy, happy and secure. If not, they can face long term consequences that impact their choices in life in a dramatic and negative way. Fear and insecurity, hopelessness or anxiety are no way to go through school or life, especially if you are a child.

The fact is that bullying prevention is a part of self defense. Self defense is a part of living with confidence, inner-strength and an acceptance that the world we live in has inherent risks. With real self defense and bullying prevention skills, martial arts students learn to resolve conflicts peacefully, to stand up for right, and have the ability to back it up. If this is what you want for your child, consider a quality martial arts program with a qualified teacher.

Unfortunately, children are often never taught how to defend themselves, either verbally or physically. Isn’t it ironic that children will often hear that they need to ‘stand up’ for themselves, yet they are without any practical knowledge or ability on how to do so.

Martial arts classes Can Help
Children should always be taught how to handle bullies with social skills, often in a verbal manner, and with the help and support of school administrators and parents. A non-violent resolution is always the best outcome and goal of any bullying scenario.

However, it is practical and necessary for children to know self defense should a situation ever develop where a physical confrontation cannot be avoided. Without it, their efforts can come up empty and ineffective. Good Martial arts classes will teach children various techniques for blocking, breaking an attacker’s grasp, and other methods to protect themselves from injury with the least amount of force necessary to escape to gain safety. Without these options, children can resort to some horrific means to escape the terror of bullying.

“Give a man a fish, feed him for a day. Teach a man to fish, feed him for life.” This is our philosophy when it comes to teaching bullying prevention. We don’t want to create a permanent victim who is completely dependent on others for protection – that just isn’t practical and takes the dignity from the individual. Instead, we work collectively to build skills, address the real problems and provide solutions that last.

Some questions to ask when evaluating a martial arts program:

Is there a firm philosophy that self defense is to be used only as a last resort?

Does the program focus on the ‘how’ rather than the ‘why’? (practical instruction, not scare-tactics)

Are the teachers positive and encouraging? (Good instructors do not make negative remarks or allow others to do so.)

Do they perform lots of hands on drills and practice? Children (and adults) learn more effectively through doing, rather than being shown or told what to do.

Why USA Martial Arts & Kickboxing?

Choosing the right martial arts school is important. The attitude of the school and quality of the instructors make a big difference:

All students at USA Martial Arts & Kickboxing Phoenix are taught that martial arts are to be used to protect your life or the lives of others. This is taught at their very first lesson and reinforced throughout their martial arts training. The Instructors reinforce that physical self defense should only be used in an emergency.

Our students learn a variety of blocks, take-downs, and methods to disable an opponent that can be applied to any number of threatening situations.

Students are always taught in an encouraging manner. Instructors focus on what your child is doing right and how they can improve.

At USA Martial Arts & Kickboxing Phoenix, children and adults learn by practicing self defense techniques regularly with a partner in a safe, controlled environment.

One of the greatest benefits your child will also gain by learning martial arts at USA Martial Arts is a higher level of self-esteem. Just having more inner-strength helps children avoid being bully victims most of the time because they project confidence and have social courage. Plus, being more confident is a leadership success trait that will help your child excel in all areas of life including academics and sports.

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“How to Effectively Bully and Victim Proof Your Child”

March 13, 2011


How To Protect Yourself From Bullying – Unconventional Bullying Advice
http://bullyproofingarizona.blogspot.com/

Former Soldier and Martial Arts Instructor Shares His 5 Step Program That Will Catapult Your Child’s Confidence, Instill an “I-Can” Attitude & Provide Them the Practical Tools to Protect Themselves from Bullies

Dear Arizona Parent:

Did You Know:

• Bullying is the #1 cause of school children’s absenteeism in the U.S.A.
• Bullying has been linked to higher rates of teen depression and suicide.
• Rigby (2002), who is a respected researcher on the topic of bullying, nationally and internationally, states:
• “Bullying involves a desire to hurt + hurtful action + a power imbalance + (typically) repetition + an unjust use of power + evident enjoyment by the aggressor and generally a sense of being oppressed on the part of the victim.” (p 51)
• Every day, 160,000 students skip school because they fear being bullied, according to the PACER Center, a parent training and information center for families of children. According to the National Association of School Psychologists,
• 1 in 7 schoolchildren is a bully or victim
• Bullying affects 5 million school children in U.S.

You may be thinking to yourself, “Do I know the techniques, tools and strategies to help my child confront today’s bullying dangers?
Don’t worry – there IS a solution – but before I get to it, let me tell you a story about a boy who was the target of a bully and how it changed his life forever…

SKINNY, UN-ATHLETIC ASTHMATIC
KID TORMENTED BY A BULLY

• His father told him to punch the bully right in the nose to “teach him a lesson”.
• His mother told him to just walk away.
• His teachers never knew about it because the bullying took place out of their sight, and often off school grounds, on the way to or from school.

He didn’t want to tell on the bullying kid because he would feel weak, like a sissy, only inviting more trouble.

He was afraid of getting in trouble for fighting, calling attention to his problem. But far more than that was the pain of keeping the secret. The secret was that he was scared, frustrated and felt trapped. That anger turned inward turned into feeling depressed as the bullying kept up over time.

But that all changed. He found a way:
• To stand tall, walk proud and keep his dignity
• Stand up to the bully
• To defeat a bully without fighting

In fact, he earned the respect of the bully and his classmates
Most importantly, he felt better about himself
Plus he used the lesson many more times in the future

BY STANDING UP TO THE BULLYING, HE WON SELF-RESPECT AND HIS NEW POWER HELPED HIM HELP OTHERS

Yes, as you probably guessed, that boy was me. Today I use those experiences to relate to other kids facing bullying in their lives. You see, I’ve helped thousands of children find their inner strength, their voice and successfully learn how to deal with bullying, conflicts and the most dangerous situations.

My name is John Nottingham and I am a 6th Degree Black Belt in the Martial Arts. I’ve trained in China, Korea and all over the world with some of the best of the best. I was in the Army Airborne and taught some of the roughest, toughest heroes in the world hand-to-hand, hand-to-weapon military combatives while serving in a Special Forces reserve unit.

Today I own a Executive Bodyguard Security and Training Company, and an award winning Martial Arts school. Over the past twenty five plus years, I have helped thousands of people from all walks of life discover their inner strength and stand up for themselves in every aspect of their lives.

From children who were getting tormented school to women feeling trapped in unhealthy relationships; from employees being mistreated by their bosses to Police and Security who have to use their skills daily on the streets. Not standing up for yourself from bullying can be just like a toxin that attacks your self concept and destroys dreams, hope and goals from the inside out.

THERE IS HOPE! I CAN HELP

I’ve developed a 5 step program to help you:
1. Build your child’s self esteem
2. Learn to handle unfair aggression
3. Flip the balance of power
4. Learn what to say and do and when to do it
5. Know how to spot a “bullying set up” well in advance so you can avoid it

VICTIM AND BULLY PROOFING

This unique method is not one of those ineffective “Ivory Tower” programs you’ll see from educational institutions. The schools that have had us there see the results because it works. Our Bullying Prevention Program isn’t theory or idealistic wishes. We give you hard-hitting tools, some of them the same strategies we teach to bodyguards who protect VIPs and celebrities! We’ll we think you are a VIP and are worth protecting.

To cut through the bullying dilema The Arizona Bullying Intervention Initiative – AZ Children’s Bully Prevention Project is working with Nottingham Sword and Shield Security and USA Martial Arts Phoenix to offer a series of bullying solutions – Victim-Bully Proof Workshops. Free Bully Prevention “5 Step How to Handle a Bully Without Fighting” training is being sponsored FREE to all Arizona Children.

What: How to Handle a Bully Without Fighting
When: 5-6pm Wednesdays during the month of March
Where: at USA Martial Arts Phoenix Tatum/Greenway Albertsons center
How much: Fully sponsored by Nottingham Sword & Shield Security, ScottsdaleBodyguard.com, KidsLoveMartialArtsPhoenix.com and USA Martial Arts Phoenix
How: Contact info@usa-martialarts.com or call (602) 896-8721 to register. Limited space available.

BULLY PROOF VEST by John Nottingham, USA Martial Arts, The Arizona Bullying Prevention Project.

The only bullying prevention program designed by protection professionals.

The Arizona Bullying Intervention Initiative | AZ Bully Prevention Project http://bullyproofingarizona.blogspot.com/
4731 e. Greenway road suite 9 phoenix, arizona 85032
Telephone (602) 896-8721
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Instantly Build Your Kids Confidence

November 15, 2010

Awarded BEST OF PHOENIX 2010

Citizenship, Character and Life Lessons From Martial Arts Masters Series

Over the 20 plus years of teaching martial arts, parents have often commented how amazed they are at the transformation in confidence they see in their child. Sometimes it happens quickly and other times it takes a bit longer. Without a doubt martial arts has proven itself as one of the best ways to build a child’s self esteem.


Secrets To Building Self Confidence The USA Martial Arts Way
The next strategy that can make an instant change in your child’s confidence is eye contact.

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Have your child practice making and maintaining eye contact upon meeting others. Encourage them to maintain eye contact when someone is asking them a question. Eye contact communicates confidence and self assuredness.

Eye contact like we teach at USA Martial arts says to others that you have inner strength. As children practice using more eye contact, they begin to feel a sense of empowerment. Children begin to see positive response in others and how they are treated. This reinforces their innate value and builds a sense of self worth.

It is important to practice it as well. Good social skills and habits are like muscles – the more you you exercise them, the stronger they become. Have your child role play a polite greeting with eye contact.

You can also try martial arts lessons where these habits are encouraged and reinforced on a regular basis.

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USA Martial Arts Phoenix
4731 E. Greenway Road Suite 9
Phoenix, Arizona 85032
602-896-8721
info@usa-martialarts.com

The ABC’s Of Personal Safety From A Security And Self Defense Specialist

September 23, 2010


The ABC’s of Personal Security and Self Defense
Conflict Resolution – Using Brains Over Brawn

Self defense is something everyone knows that we should learn, yet few actually do. Rather than use a few self defense or fighting tips as an emotional pacifier, it is important to test and apply what you think you know. It is through this process that self defense competence is built. With self defense competence comes personal protection and security confidence. A good self defense instructor will ad to your peace of mind and help you use your innate survival signals and skills to bring to bear in protecting yourself and/or the ones you love.
When you learn to defend yourself you are less likely to have to because:

1. You tend to avoid potentially dangerous situations because you recognize them earlier
2. You are more likely to trust your intuition/gut feelings therefore act on them
3. Project more confidence which often removes you from the victim profile. Criminals like easy targets, not difficult ones.

HERE ARE A FEW OF OUR ABC’s OF SELF PROTECTION PERSONAL SECURITY

Alert to Avoid Potentially Dangerous Situations
– Knowledge and Awareness of dangerous situations and how criminals operate
– Trusting instincts and Acting on intuition
– Always observe safe habits and practices

Breathe
– Belly Breath with Backpressure on exhale helps manage stress, adrenaline and fear
– Be looking for opportunities, weapons, barriers, escape routes and targets
– Be prepared with training and a plan but be flexible

Communicate with Confidence and Commit
– Say directly what you mean and mean what you say
– Change the Context of any situation you feel might lead to a violent encounter
– Commit to your plan and execute with intensity

Distance
Whenever you increase distance, you increase time and options and usually deny the targets

Eyes on targets and Escape options
Eyes, neck, groin, knees, Everything’s a weapon, Escape

Recommended reading: “The Gift of Fear” by Gavin de Becker

Personal Security and Self-Defense Training Courses

Escape to Gain Safety: Jeet Kune Do based self defense for women www.fighting.net/johnn
P.E.A.C.E.: A 5 Step Program of Self Defense
ABCs of Self Defense: Self Defense Basics for Everyone
The 5 Fingers of Self Defense: Self Defense Concepts
Street-Wise Street-Smarts: Street savvy self defense lecture
http://ScottsdaleExecutiveSecurity.com http://USA-MartialArts.com
Hit Like a Girl: Bodyguard Tactics for Women in a fun entertaining format http://www.facebook.com/pages/Hit-Like-a-Girl/339618134337?ref=ts

Children’s Personal Safety Self Defense Courses
o Kid-Wise Street Smarts
o Bully to Buddy
o Escape School for Kids- Stranger Safety Skills
0 http://USA-MartialArts.com

Rapid Learn Immersion Reality Based Self Defense Training
Paul Vunak’s RAT: The rapid learn hand to hand combat course taught to Navy SEALS
John Nottingham’s VIPER Personal Protection: A customized street combat course specializing in scenario based training and adrenal stress conditioning, survival stress inoculation with context driven solutions.
http://NottinghamSwordandShieldSecurity.com
Each program can be taught as a lecture or hands on clinic and tailored to the individual or organization.

USA Martial Arts Phoenix
4731 E. Greenway Rd. Suite 9
Phoenix, Arizona 85032
602-896-8721
http://USA-MartialArts.com

Nottingham Sword&Shield; Security&Training
NTS TACTICAL Phoenix Campus
4731 E. Greenway Rd. Suite 10
Phoenix, Arizona 85032
http://ScottsdaleExecutiveSecurity.com

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June 6, 2010

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