Bad Bullying Advice Failing Children. So called authority on Bullying admits, “It’s a mess. I want to bang my head against the wall.”

Anti-Bullying Programs Continue to Fail Children While Real Bullying Prevention Solutions Go Ignored


So called authority on Bullying admits, “It’s a mess. I want to bang my head against the wall.”

What Happens When You Get Pencil Pushers Calling Themselves Bullying Experts and Give Children Bad Bullying Advice?
Reviewing the 25 years of results from numerous studies on the effectiveness of US and European bullying prevention programs, researchers from the University of Oregon (Merell) found:

o Select programs resulted in modest improvements in students’ attitudes about bullying and in their feelings of social competence
o The study showed NONE that demonstrated a significant reduction in bullying behavior
o Researchers found that “the average teacher actually reported more bullying after intervention than before.”

What about the gold standard Olweus Bullying Prevention program?
A professor of educational psychology at the University of Illinois at Urbana-Champaign, Dorothy Espelage, reveals “there’s no scientific evidence to show that strategies developed for Norway’s homogeneous population actually work for the population here, especially given its diversity”. So why has this expensive and proven ineffective Olweus Bullying Intervention program the most prevalent in the United States? Why would that program be purchased with tax payer (your) money while free and less costly one’s have proven themselves successful?

Ready for some irony?
Espelage is promoted as being a leading American authority on bullying and definitely someone who falls into that category of thoughtful, committed educators. Yet, after 17 years in the field, she admits, “It’s a mess. I want to bang my head against the wall.”

With all due respect to their good intentions… they just don’t get it.

The Anti-bullying movement continues to fail children and families, yet they still receive media attention, funding and now even new laws. The reason for the failure is clear to anyone from the real bullying prevention movement, those who have been successfully helping children for decades.

The Anti-Bullying Movement Will Continue To Fail. The Bullying Prevention Movement Will Continue To Succeed. Why?

Here are just 7 reasons the anti-bully programs fail and will continue to fail children.
1. Anti-Bullying: Box the target of bulling into a victim role and children lose dignity and hope
2. Anti-Bullying: Play the blame game so children falsely feel helpless and have no power of their own
3. Anti-Bullying: Bully by making new laws, rules, zero tolerance policies which will often escalate bullying
4. Anti-Bullying: Refuse to acknowledge that bullying prevention is self defense and personal security issue – disciplines they no little or nothing about
5. Anti-Bullying: Distort reality to fit their own agenda, hopes and wishes. Denial is not an effective self defense strategy.
6. Anti-Bullying: Fail to address to core issues of the human heart, the causes of bullying and the historical precedent for what works and doesn’t work.
7. Anti-Bullying: Has an agenda that is motivated in politics and flawed ideals. While they seem comfortable with experimenting on our children, the bullying prevention movement is actively working to protect them.

Bad bullying advice hurts kids. It is the children who fall through the cracks and feel trapped from their mixed messages and failed techniques. The good news is that the Bullying Prevention groups have answers and solutions that are proven to work.

+ Children deserve dignity and respect
+ Children have power and need to be taught when and where to use it
+ Children cannot be protected 100% all of the time – they have to take an active role
+ Children can learn to prevent bullying behavior and improve their safety

It is our job to prepare children for these situations, not rely on others to do it for us or leave them unshielded, vulnerable and helpless as “victims of bulling”.

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